How to overcome fear of starting (Part III) ?


This is the continuation of the previous topics on Fear of starting !
If you've not read the previous blog (Here's the link to previous blog do check out)

Now moving forward with the Fear No. 5 .

5. I can't loose something I have! 

Well in this case often times people fear loosing money , their job , relation or sometimes even respect (If they have a high paying job then they fear that we will loose respect for leaving such a good job well I have already told you the question (in previous blog) At the time of death do you want to regret that when you had chance you listened to this X person and you didn't work on your art or that million dollar idea which you had? )
Let me tell you about something about fear of loosing something that we think is important!
If we think about it with our brains nothing is permanent isn't it not even you but the thing that is permanent is our legacy that we create ! 
So it all depends on you whether you want to make your legacy or you want to gain something that may be is not permanent. Legacy is better than currency.


Well for with the job ones here's a great idea I'd like to tell 
1. Do you know what you love ?
2. If yes then move to next question , if no find the thing that you love! (The thing that you are passionate about which you can't live without happily , while doing this thing you don't remember time and for many of you out there you might think this doesn't happen in real life , let me tell you something from my experience (I am a 3D artist who likes to motivate people(That's the reason I'm writing this blog)) I never know how much I've been in front of the computer doing my work improving my art) this thing happen in real ! So if you've found what you are passionate about then move to next question!
3. The 9-5 job: How long is your job (9 a.m  - 5 p.m) then you can work after getting home , spending time with your kids , after having lunch . If we take account all the activity if you are family guy you can get to work you love to do by  10 p.m then you can sit there up to 3 a.m or whatever you might feel . Now don't complain about 3 a.m in the morning . If you are passionate enough to do that thing you would stay up to 4 or 5 a.m (I know sleep is important but you'll have to sacrifice a part of your sleep if you want to live a life you are passionate about! ).
The tour job: Again with the tour job (as my father has a tour job I know a bit how things are). They have to constantly move from places to places for meetings function or any other thing ! For them you always have a laptop and smart phone in your hand don't you ? Then make use of that smartly ! If you are a passionate violinist and want to teach others how to play violin teach them online the INTERNET has brought us together , if you are passionate about plants start a blog you name it !

For readers reading this , you tell me your passion, any ,  and I will tell you how you can make a living out of it ! For real guys if you are passionate enough and don't know the way you ask me right now I will help you! 

4. Once you've started working on it daily you'll feel more happy and after you get perfect at it you will always able to monetise your passion! 

Now moving to next question 

6. There are many people doing the same thing why will they like my stuff ?

Many of us think that I am passionate about XYZ but there are many others doing the same stuff like me ? Why will people like my product over theirs?
The thing is every person is different isn't is ? Your passion brings a new angle to whatever you do , whether it was done before by anyone else isn't it!
For me there are thousands and millions of motivaters or bloggers that write motivational stuff then why should I start ?
Because we all have different life experiences which no one had before so everything I put might have my thing to it ! You can always rely on your passion and DNA for uniqueness.

Moving to next point

7. Well I think it's not my stuff or I can't probably do something !(After trying something few times) 

Well no one has ever had overnight success , NO ONE !
Show me who had overnight success!
Let me ask you one simple question which would solve this problem of expecting results in few moths or years
Do you really think , I mean really with your brains , that you could get something in first few months or year what you want to pursue for your life time ?
HELL NO!
Everyone likes to get things quickly , that doesn't happen in real life! You have to grind and grind and work and work and work and work for it !
After some tries you have started to think that this isn't my thing then I just want you to ask the question
'Am I right in expecting the thing to be perfect in a year or two ?'

8. I don't have time !!! (Like really ?)

Well this is my favourite topic and I would go on and on writing about it!  But let me again ask you few questions !
1. How much time do you spend in front of television (Idiot box ! it's actually called  that for a reason), smart phone (Which we don't use smartly ! {I'll be writing a blog on how I use the smart phone smartly! so stay tuned}) ? You'll probably get your answer.
Now if you don't spend your time on these things but still you don't get time to work on your passion! Then ask this next question.
2. I say that I don't get enough time to work on my passion , so what would I do if a worst case scenario arises how will i find time for that ? (To understand this question better I recommend you to watch this video from 2:07 or you can watch the whole video and you'll get the idea what i am talking about)

So there is always ways to work out if you are passionate about it and your passion is your priority ! I could write more but I'm pretty sure after watching the above video and asking yourself the above question you might have got a good idea as to how to get time for your passion !

9. Building castle in the air !

Our brain are so good at story telling that it deludes us into thinking that it might be true even if it isn't ! Our brain tells ourselves stories, often negative/false, about a
thing that we are going to start. It often goes like this :
Okay if I start I'll do this , then may be this , but what if people don't agree , what if the partner says no or what if my business doesn't work , or what if I ask him/her out and she says no or what if he/she doesn't accept .......... and the list goes on! 

So instead of directing a film that you dread imagine something beautiful ! And start putting the thing in real ! It might not go according to your imagined story but again you are always free to direct a new story again and work for it !

Hope you loved reading the blog if there are any question feel free to ask ! I'll always try to help as possible ! If you love the blog I am starting a Facebook community where we help each others stay on track of our goals. There are no members in the group right now but I'd like to start with you guys who are passionate or want to take actions or get a task completed but are procrastinating !

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