How to Overcome fear of starting something ? (Part II)
This is continuation of my previous post , if you've not read my previous blog (Link to previous blog).Hope you found that blog useful.
If you are joining me now we were discussing about HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF STARTING SOMETHING?
So the 3rd one on the list was
3.What will X person say about me?
Well this is the most common reason why people don't start, right ?
People are often smothered by the thought of what he/she will think of me , what if I fail will he talk to me or tease me or laugh at me ? So here's how we can handle it:
I want you to ask yourself these questions ↓
a). How is he/she related to me ? (Whether he or she is just your acquaintance or close family member. I'll discuss about it after the questions)
b). How does his/her opinion affect me ? What if I don't listen to him/her will there be any consequences ?
c). Is he/she expert in the field you are trying to start ? Or is he/she just another 'I know everything guy/gal' who hasn't done a thing himself and is trying to stop you from becoming or giving your best? (If he/she is an expert and gives you opinion you should think about what he's saying but in no way you should stop from starting if YOUR HEART tell you to or your INTUITIONS tell you to!)
(Now this is the most important question ! )
d). At the time of death do you want to regret that when you had chance you listened to this X person and you didn't work on your art or that million dollar idea which you had?
Now I'll like to discuss something more about point a). We often feel pressure of the people that we don't even know , so ask yourself the last question and you'll sort it out.
But things are hard when sometimes your family doesn't support you in the thing that you are trying to do ! Well I have faced this situation and it's quite hard to get out of that ! The thing is you got to explain your parents or members that you can do it ! and also even if I fail in the thing I'm trying to pursue I'll take whole responsibility of it , And It's always better to take responsibility of what decision you take in your life rather than blaming your parents or peers! Stand strong !
Remember, You are responsible for your life ! Whatever decision you take , whomever you listen to . If you fail after listening to some person's advice YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE ! The faster you get this better it is !
REMEMBER YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE!
I'm sure that if you ask yourself the last question{d).} you'll take decision and will not depend upon others for acceptance !
So ask these questions to yourself and answer them you'll understand and get idea of why weren't you starting was it logical or were you just afraid of something that wasn't real ? And once you are through this you are free from any opinions or thoughts of others and you start !
4. Will I be liked ?
Success is often times related with money which in turn is connected to evil thoughts or gaining it through evil path or something like that! For me success is happiness it might be anything for you
'Success is relative'Also sometimes to succeed we have to get away from some of our friends or family , the reason might be anything like they may be keeping you from getting to your best or may be you don't have time because you need to work hard on your thing ! So this may push you into the thinking that may be they would think that 'I'm over smart !' or 'I've become so success oriented that I don't have time for them ' and so many other things I don't want to get in that.
The important thing is you need to enjoy the process of whatever you doing in your life . If you enjoy that , other things doesn't matter! Let them think you're over smart or money oriented or success oriented. Remember the last question I asked you to ask yourself ?
Next points will be discussed in upcoming blogs hope you find it useful!
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